What if I make the wrong decision?

Do you notice that sometimes you wake up in the morning and it’s like you’ve immediately bumped into this giant wall of fear?

It feels like something terrible has happened and you’ve literally just opened your eyes?

I have been feeling like that the past few mornings. 

And on mornings like this I am reminded of how grateful I am to have strategies to help unravel what is going on for me. 

I am reminded that I am lucky to have my brain because although it sometimes feels like it’s working against me, I know it’s my ally - when I use it intentionally. 

So I get to work and figure out what’s going on. 

This morning I am feeling fearful, worried and anxious because my mind has been full with making decisions. 

When am I going back to work?

What will that look like?

If I am teaching part time and coaching, will I make enough money?

What school will Toby go to in September?

Should we move Ty into his own room now or keep him in ours?

Lots going on up there.

Totally normal. 

And what happens for me when I have these unanswered questions in my mind, it leaves me feeling anxious. 

So I go to work answering these questions. I write down my thoughts, I write down the pros and cons, and I get all of the chatter out of my head and onto paper. 

So I can look at all of it and then decide what I want to keep up there. What I want to focus on. What decision I want to make. 

Then I make a decision. And I make sure I like my decision. 

For example: I have decided that I am going to go back to teaching part time and spend the rest of my time coaching amazing women and children. Why? Lots of reasons. But the one I love the most is: because that’s what I WANT to do. Not what I have to do, or what I should do, but because that’s what I want to do. 

And I love that reason. 

So there we have it. 

Done, done, done! 

Right? 

Wrong! 

Then my well-intentioned brain gets involved again and it lets me know that this might be the wrong decision. 

And that feels terrible. I don’t want that for me. I only ever want to make the “right” decisions. 

Fascinating, isn’t it? We make a decision and love it and then what seems like immediately, we can get pulled back into the tailspin of making the decision again. 

So instead of allowing myself to go back there, I remind myself and my brain that not only are decisions only right or wrong if I decide they are.

But that the decisions I make have no relevance to the person I am, my worth or value. 

None whatsoever.

So when my brain offers me thoughts like:

You’re going to mess this up. 

This might not be the right decision. 

If it’s the wrong decision then you’ve made a huge mistake. 

I can lovingly remind it that not only will I decide that whatever decision I make is the best one for me in this moment, but the outcome of that decision has nothing to do with me as a person. 

My value and worth and amazingness is always 100% no matter what.

And no matter what, I am going to love myself and have my own back every step of the way. 

If you are noticing fear, anxiety or worry about making a decision right now, notice if you are putting pressure on yourself to make the “right” decision.  

Then ask yourself, what if there is no such thing as a “right” or “wrong” decision and instead there are just decisions? 

And you just get to decide from here on out that no matter what decision you make, no matter if you change your mind, you’re always making the best decision.

Oh, and you’re always amazing no matter what decision you make too. 

That’s a given. 

Love you all. Have a beautiful day. 

xo