I used to worry about what other people thought of me

I used to really worry about what other people thought about me.

I didn’t want people not to like me. 

And I felt as though if I could be likable to all the people around me then that would be so amazing. 

Because if people like me, then that means I am likable. 

And if people don’t like me then that means I am unlikable. 

Which seems easy enough. Just be likable and people will like you. 

But it’s actually not easy at all. 

Agreeing with what people say when I don’t actually agree isn’t easy. It’s hard and confusing for me. 

Same with saying “yeah I would be mad about that too” even if I wouldn’t be. 

Or even remaining quiet, when all I want to do is talk and connect and share, but I am not because I am afraid of saying the wrong or unlikable thing. 

I used to really worry about what other people thought about me because I really wanted them to like me. 

Without having any clue what they actually like. 

When I think about it, I am not sure how that would even work but I really thought that if I showed up in a certain likable way then I would be able to make sure that others liked me. 

And it was exhausting. And lonely. And the opposite of what I really was looking for. 

What I wanted was connection and love and confidence and I thought I would find that in other people’s opinions of me. 

But I have learned now that it’s actually an impossible task.

It’s impossible to make other people like me. I don’t have that kind of power even though it feels like I do. 

And when I focus all my energy on making sure others like me, I forget what is actually important. 

That I like me. 

Because if I like me, none of this actually matters. 

If I truly like me then if someone doesn’t like me, that’s what would be confusing. 

If my belief is that I am so damn likable then anything that doesn’t align with that wouldn’t compute in my brain. 

Other people’s opinions would stop mattering because it would be my opinion that mattered the most. 

I used to really worry about what other people thought about me because I really wanted them to like me. 

But now I don’t. I focus on me liking me.

And I’ve learned that I am pretty damn likable. 

And so are you. 

Once you decide that. Not when someone else tells you, but when you decide it to be true. 

You liking you matters. So much. And so the next time your brain is worrying about other people’s opinions of you, check in with you first and ask “Am I liking me right now?” And if the answer is no, try liking you first. 

Because you liking you is what matters. 

Have a beautiful day my bffs. 

xo

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